The Art of Gathering (Priya Parker)
In The Art of Gathering, Priya Parker argues that the gatherings in our lives are lackluster and unproductive—and they don't have to be. We rely too much on routine and the conventions of gatherings when we should focus on distinctiveness and the people involved. At a time when coming together is more important than ever, Parker sets forth a human-centered approach to gathering that will help everyone create meaningful, memorable experiences, large and small, for work and for play.
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In The Art of Gathering, Priya Parker argues that the gatherings in our lives are lackluster and unproductive -- which they don't have to be. We rely too much on routine and the conventions of gatherings when we should focus on distinctiveness and the people involved. At a time when coming together is more important than ever, Parker sets forth a human-centered approach to gathering that will help everyone create meaningful, memorable experiences, large and small, for work and for play.
Drawing on her expertise as a facilitator of high-powered gatherings around the world, Parker takes us inside events of all kinds to show what works, what doesn't, and why. She investigates a wide array of gatherings -- conferences, meetings, a courtroom, a flash-mob party, an Arab-Israeli summer camp -- and explains how simple, specific changes can invigorate any group experience.
The result is a book that's both journey and guide, full of exciting ideas with real-world applications. The Art of Gathering will forever alter the way you look at your next meeting, industry conference, dinner party, and backyard barbecue--and how you host and attend them.
In this episode, you’ll learn…
How to follow Priya’s framework for creating intentional, meaningful gatherings
That anyone has the ability to gather well. You don’t need to be a boss or manager, an extrovert, or have a fancy house
Why the gatherings in our lives tend to adhere to traditional, outdated, and ineffective formats -- and often end up missing the mark, being disappointing, perceived as a waste of time, or feel like the “same tired way we’ve always done it”
How a gathering can elevate if you put the right people in a room and help them to collectively think, dream, argue, heal, envision, trust, and connect for a specific larger purpose -- ultimately experience a sense of greater belonging
Takeaways from Chapter 1: Decide Why You’re Really Gathering
Why to commit to a bold, sharp purpose (a category is not a purpose!)
Why specificity is crucial
Why a purpose should be disputable
Takeaways from Chapter 2: Close Doors
Why your guest list is the first real test of your gathering
Why/how to exclude well, and generously
What the ideal sizes are for gathering types
Why your venue sets the tone for your gathering
Takeaways from Chapter 3: Don’t be a Chill Host
Why you should acknowledge you have power as a host
Why an abdication of power (being a “chill” host) often fails guests rather than serves them
Why “generous authority” is about protecting, connecting, and equalizing guests
Takeaways from Chapter 4: Create a Temporary Alternative World
Why/how to “spice things up” by designing your gathering as a world that will only exist once
How to use rules to create a unique feeling and make guests feel comfortable, secure, and included
Takeaways from Chapter 5: Never Start a Funeral with Logistics
Why the opening of an event is often a big missed opportunity
How priming works prior to your event
Why/how to usher your guests into the experience of your gathering
Takeaways from Chapter 6: Keep Your Best Self Out of my Gathering
Why guests want realness and intimacy from each other, not just someone’s “public face”
How to encourage guests to share honestly and authentically (and lead by example)
Takeaways from Chapter 7: Cause Good Controversy
Why controversy can make a gathering “matter”
Why/how to make your gathering "fruitfully controversial"
Takeaways from Chapter 8: Accept That There is an End
How to logistically close your gathering, end on a high, and graciously say goodbye
Why how you end things -- just as how you start things -- shapes the attendees’ experience
Why closings are an opportunity to recall your purpose
Plan an event OR think about a gathering you host or are involved in: is it a weekly office meeting, a meet-up group, a book club, or a conference or community event? Which principle in this books stands out as one your gathering is lacking? How can you affect change in your gathering to make it better using this principle?
Put the principals of The Art of Gathering into action! Then…
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