The Four Tendencies (Gretchen Rubin)

There’s no magic, one-size-fits-all answer for building a happier, healthier, more productive life. In her book, The Four Tendencies, Gretchen Rubin reveals the one simple question that will transform what you do at home, at work, and in life.

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There’s no magic, one-size-fits-all answer for building a happier, healthier, more productive life. In The Four Tendencies, Gretchen Rubin reveals the one simple question that will transform what you do at home, at work, and in life. During her multibook investigation into understanding human nature, Gretchen realized that by asking the seemingly dry question "How do I respond to expectations?" we gain explosive self-knowledge. 

 

She discovered that based on their answer, people fit into Four Tendencies: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. Our Tendency shapes every aspect of our behavior, so using this framework allows us to make better decisions, meet deadlines, suffer less stress, and engage more effectively. 

More than 600,000 people from all walks of life have taken her online quiz and used the four tendencies framework to make significant, lasting change.  

The Four Tendencies hold practical answers if you've ever thought...

  • People can rely on me, but I can't rely on myself.

  • How can I help someone to follow good advice?

  • People say I ask too many questions.

  • How do I work with someone who refuses to do what I ask—or who keeps telling me what to do?

With sharp insight, compelling research, and hilarious examples, The Four Tendencies will help you get happier, healthier, more productive, and more creative. After all, it's far easier to succeed when you know what works for you.

Show notes

In this episode, you’ll learn...

  • Where to take the Four Tendencies quiz: right here!

  • What the Four Tendencies are and why it is useful to learn yours

  • How to use the Four Tendencies to improve the way we understand and communicate with others

  • How to identify the strengths and potential weaknesses of your Tendency -- plus, how to leverage your strengths and counteract the weaknesses

Bookmarked activity

Take the Tendencies quiz!

Are you an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger or a Rebel?  Take the quiz here!  



Other fun stuff referenced

  • Gretchen Rubin's books and her podcast, Happier 

  • Things, the task manager app Melissa loves (so much she paid for it)

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